PAIRS: Program for training facilitators for group work with couples and family


The Family: Counseling and Educational Aspects


Scope of the course: 120 hours

Course requirements: final paper

Grade calculation: 40% active participation in class, 60% final paper


Course content:


The PAIRS program was designed as an educational training program for the instruction of couples aiming to strengthen the relationship with the partner and improve family life.

The objective of the course is to train educational professionals in counseling couples toward the enrichment of family life and the acquisition of skills related to improving the quality of married life.


Contents in detail:


  • Identifying each person's uniqueness within a couplehood as a means of strengthening the relationship rather than seeing it as a threat and a source of stress.
  • Identifying the partners' communication styles and their role in creating tension between spouses.
  • Acquiring the ability to express negative emotions directly, without damaging the trust, appreciation, and love in the relationship.
  • Learning techniques for improving the atmosphere in problem-solving situations.
  • Identifying the characteristics and behavior in the family of origin and their influence on the style of communication between partners in their relationship.
  • Learning techniques to strengthen emotional intimacy between spouses.


Teaching method:

Frontal lectures, group work, and class discussions.


For more information:

Secretariat - Mrs. Reut Amir


Monday: 10:00 to 15:00

Tuesday: 13:00 to 3:00 p.m.

Wednesday: 10:00 to 15:00

Phone: 03-5318710

Fax: 03-7384030


Meetings and content:

Meetings No. 1-2: Introduction to the course: enriching family life and marriage; key concepts taught in the course; getting acquainted; clarification of expectations (contract); family communication skills versus workplace communication skills; bonding.

Gordon, L, H, Frandsen, J., (1993). Passage to Intimacy. Simon & Schuster: NY.


Meetings No. 3-4: Personal communication - "how" is no less important than "what;" communication in situations of family stress; consistent and clear communication style; the child in me from the past/

Satir, et al., (1989). Modern family. Sifriat Hapoalim: Tel - Aviv.


Meetings No. 5-6: Connection between communication style and self-esteem; daily assessment of the nature of the relationship between spouses; "mind reading;" communication style between spouses and its effect on child development.


Meetings No. 7-8: Control of inter-spousal communication styles (passive and active), destructive conflict style; rituals for expressing anger.


Meetings No. 9-10: How to fight fair? anger in the family of origin; evolving style of behavior.


Meetings No. 11-12: "Short-circuits" in communication; "love knots;" "mixed messages;" "dashboard" in the time machine of marriage; residues of the past; cruel disappointments - how to deal with all these?


Meetings No. 13-14: How family history affects the development of "self?" cycles in family and marital life; family structure (coalitions, triangles), genogram, loyalty and commitments from the past (invisible loyalties).


Meetings No. 15-16: Emotional development in the family; development of self-differentiation; the ability to express feelings; expressing feelings as a means for enjoyment in a relationship; coping with loss.


Meetings No. 17-18: Similarities and contrasts between spouses; getting to know the various parts of "self;" contact skills between spouses through "self;" experiencing the parts party.


Meetings No. 19-20: Sexual behavior; the PLISSIT model; myths and prejudices.


Meetings No. 21-22: Sexual response cycle; jealousy; ability for separation and bridging (Letting Go).

Wonder, M. Cabot, i. (1994), Release, "Bitan": Tel - Aviv.. 1994),

Pines-Malach, Tree, (1992), The Shadow of Love: Romantic jealousy. Tcherikover: Tel-Aviv.


Meetings No. 23-24: Gender; meeting between the sexes.


Meetings No. 25-26: Building a "contract;" clarification and coordination of expectations; power and control in decision making; common values.


Meetings No. 27-28: Presenting final papers.


Meetings No. 29-30: Presenting final papers and feedback on the course.


 A 150 NIS registration fee is due upon sign-up to the course: